Dealing With The Aftermath Of Betrayal
Betrayal can be anything: infidelity, incest, emotional and physical abuse, telling a lie, secretly overspending or being hurt by a friend.
I recently received many emails asking me: "How do I move on with my life?"
A simple answer can be - forgiveness is the key.
Forgiveness means:
I am no longer willing to compromise my happiness or my life.
I no longer hold grudges or harbor resentments.
I release myself from any shame and guilt.
I am in control of my life.
I live in peace with what has already happened.
Forgiveness does NOT mean:
You agree with the actions or behavior.
You trust him or her just because you forgive them.
You are letting him or her off the hook.
The person does not need to pay the consequences for their actions.
You have to talk to the other person.
Forgiveness is about YOU, about your inner peace, about your life.
Release the person or event, and release yourself.
Forgiveness is a choice.
Try this simple and effective exercise:
Recall what and/or who you need to forgive. Write and say out loud at least ten times "I release and forgive _______________ (be specific) for any pain or damage I experienced." You may be saying this through gritted teeth or tears. Do it anyway, just get started.
Focus on the feeling of forgiveness and releasing yourself from the past. Repeat as often as necessary. Every time you do this exercise you move forward in your forgiveness journey.
Remember, forgiveness is a process and every step you take brings you closer to finding your true freedom and inner peace. Forgiveness is for YOUR benefit, NOT for the benefit of the person who wronged you. Are you surprised? Why do you think it feels so much better, like a load is lifted from you, after you truly forgives someone.
Yes, when you truly forgive someone, you no longer carry the burden of their wrong. It's all on them now. You don't need their burden especially from selfish, uncaring people who may not even be aware of how much they have hurt you.
Free yourself...forgiveness is the key.
With support for you in your journey,
Betrayal can be anything: infidelity, incest, emotional and physical abuse, telling a lie, secretly overspending or being hurt by a friend.
I recently received many emails asking me: "How do I move on with my life?"
A simple answer can be - forgiveness is the key.
Forgiveness means:
I am no longer willing to compromise my happiness or my life.
I no longer hold grudges or harbor resentments.
I release myself from any shame and guilt.
I am in control of my life.
I live in peace with what has already happened.
Forgiveness does NOT mean:
You agree with the actions or behavior.
You trust him or her just because you forgive them.
You are letting him or her off the hook.
The person does not need to pay the consequences for their actions.
You have to talk to the other person.
Forgiveness is about YOU, about your inner peace, about your life.
Release the person or event, and release yourself.
Forgiveness is a choice.
Try this simple and effective exercise:
Recall what and/or who you need to forgive. Write and say out loud at least ten times "I release and forgive _______________ (be specific) for any pain or damage I experienced." You may be saying this through gritted teeth or tears. Do it anyway, just get started.
Focus on the feeling of forgiveness and releasing yourself from the past. Repeat as often as necessary. Every time you do this exercise you move forward in your forgiveness journey.
Remember, forgiveness is a process and every step you take brings you closer to finding your true freedom and inner peace. Forgiveness is for YOUR benefit, NOT for the benefit of the person who wronged you. Are you surprised? Why do you think it feels so much better, like a load is lifted from you, after you truly forgives someone.
Yes, when you truly forgive someone, you no longer carry the burden of their wrong. It's all on them now. You don't need their burden especially from selfish, uncaring people who may not even be aware of how much they have hurt you.
Free yourself...forgiveness is the key.
With support for you in your journey,
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