Hate The Sin But Love The Sinner? What About the Effects of The Sin?
(A comment sent to The Jamiacan Gleaner in response to an article entitled "Sin is Sin" referencing homosexual behavior.)
Yes, the debate goes on, but sin is still sin. My concern is not necessarily about the sin itself, but what the sin is causing to happen to so many innocent people. For instance, (1) a young Christian woman with great morals, kept herself pure, finished her college education, and then decided to date seriously within the parameters of her religion.
She met a "Christian" man who everyone still thinks is wonderful. He is an accomplished professional and compliments her appropriately. The church endorsed the courtship and the eventual marriage. They traveled to a romantic island destination for the wedding and subsequent honeymoon. Three months after the honeymoon the distraught young woman is bewildered, because her supposed prince charming is secretly gay, and only married her, to cover up the fact that he is sexually attracted to men, and not to his beautiful, intelligent wife.
Nothing she does turns him on, and she has a great body that she takes good care of. He does not find her sexy lingerie attractive, or her beautiful body. He does even get an erection with her standing naked in front of him. Yet she caught him with huge erections several times, while watching gay porn on the computer. She also discovered that his best buddy is not just a 'best friend', they are lovers. After 90 days of marriage she is still officially a virgin. He wants her to keep his secret and suffer in silence.
No newlywed affectionate kissing, touching, nothing like that. Just lots of put down and excuses. He is 32 years old, she is 27. Can you imagine how hurtful, self demoralizing, self esteem busting, and sexual esteem damaging and shameful this is for this young woman who saved herself for the 'right' man? This is happening with such frequency, to both younger and older women, and even some men are being deceived into marriage with secretly gay women who are intent on hiding their true sexual orientation.
Let me make one thing clear here, having gay orientation is not a sin in itself. Participating in gay oriented acts is the sin. Just like prostitution, adultery and murder. They are all different forms of SIN. But God will deal with every one of them in the same manner if people do not ask for forgiveness. We should not accept some people and reject others. Some people are committing adultery and homosexuality at the same time. People will do what they want, but no one has to love the sin. SIN is SIN.
All those people who are stuck in relationships or marriages seeped in deception are hurting. Your family may be hurting too. Here at South Florida Connects, we want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is support available for you to help you through this difficult time.
You can reach out to us via our website at: www.southfloridaconnects.com
No Spouse Left Behind: Straight Spouse Awareness:
Help For Men and Women in Relationship With a Secretly Gay Spouse.
Debbie Thomas-Brown
CEO/Founder
South Florida Connects
E-Mail
Tel. Hotline: 1-954-983-9751
(1) (Permission received to use story without identifying the
parties, to provide awareness and help to others.)
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(A comment sent to The Jamiacan Gleaner in response to an article entitled "Sin is Sin" referencing homosexual behavior.)
Yes, the debate goes on, but sin is still sin. My concern is not necessarily about the sin itself, but what the sin is causing to happen to so many innocent people. For instance, (1) a young Christian woman with great morals, kept herself pure, finished her college education, and then decided to date seriously within the parameters of her religion.
She met a "Christian" man who everyone still thinks is wonderful. He is an accomplished professional and compliments her appropriately. The church endorsed the courtship and the eventual marriage. They traveled to a romantic island destination for the wedding and subsequent honeymoon. Three months after the honeymoon the distraught young woman is bewildered, because her supposed prince charming is secretly gay, and only married her, to cover up the fact that he is sexually attracted to men, and not to his beautiful, intelligent wife.
Nothing she does turns him on, and she has a great body that she takes good care of. He does not find her sexy lingerie attractive, or her beautiful body. He does even get an erection with her standing naked in front of him. Yet she caught him with huge erections several times, while watching gay porn on the computer. She also discovered that his best buddy is not just a 'best friend', they are lovers. After 90 days of marriage she is still officially a virgin. He wants her to keep his secret and suffer in silence.
No newlywed affectionate kissing, touching, nothing like that. Just lots of put down and excuses. He is 32 years old, she is 27. Can you imagine how hurtful, self demoralizing, self esteem busting, and sexual esteem damaging and shameful this is for this young woman who saved herself for the 'right' man? This is happening with such frequency, to both younger and older women, and even some men are being deceived into marriage with secretly gay women who are intent on hiding their true sexual orientation.
Let me make one thing clear here, having gay orientation is not a sin in itself. Participating in gay oriented acts is the sin. Just like prostitution, adultery and murder. They are all different forms of SIN. But God will deal with every one of them in the same manner if people do not ask for forgiveness. We should not accept some people and reject others. Some people are committing adultery and homosexuality at the same time. People will do what they want, but no one has to love the sin. SIN is SIN.
All those people who are stuck in relationships or marriages seeped in deception are hurting. Your family may be hurting too. Here at South Florida Connects, we want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is support available for you to help you through this difficult time.
You can reach out to us via our website at: www.southfloridaconnects.com
No Spouse Left Behind: Straight Spouse Awareness:
Help For Men and Women in Relationship With a Secretly Gay Spouse.
Debbie Thomas-Brown
CEO/Founder
South Florida Connects
Tel. Hotline: 1-954-983-9751
(1) (Permission received to use story without identifying the
parties, to provide awareness and help to others.)
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