Choosing to Forgive Your Ex-Husband or Ex-Wife
Don’t get me wrong. I am not suggesting for one minute that people forget, tolerate, condone, excuse, or become a doormat for their offending former spouse. What I am suggesting is that it is advantageous to let go of the need for revenge and to release the negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment.
By letting go, people gain control of their emotions and the control their ex-spouses have over them. Yet, just trying not to be angry rarely works. The pain of the offense can be the pivot point for flourishing. How? The offense gives the “victim” key insights about the perpetrator’s humanity and need to be positively transformed. Responsible forgiveness refuses to excuse injustice while opening the door to healing.
How you can forgive your ex?