Domestic Violence affects everyone, every kind of individuals. It does not matter where you are from, who you are, how much money you have, how many degrees you have or how powerful your family is.
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Straight spouses are not immune from DV. We want you to be very aware that your situation in itself is abusive, but we want you to have a heightened awareness of other aspects of domestic violence and abuse. You may or may not be experiencing several forms of domestic violence and abuse. Knowledge is power.
The Abuse Epidemic: Silent No More
by Rick Warren
“I said ... ‘I will not say anything while evil people are near.’ I kept quiet, not saying a word.... But my suffering only grew worse, and I was overcome with anxiety. The more I thought, the more troubled I became; I could not keep from asking: ‘Lord, how long will I live? When will I die? Tell me how soon my life will end.’” (Psalm 39:1-4 GNT)
The first step in breaking free from abuse, whether it’s sexual or physical or verbal or emotional, is sharing with someone who can help you break free.
Jesus said in John 8:32, “The truth will set you free” (NLT). Freedom comes when you open up and admit your pain to someone else.
In a study of 10 nations, it was discovered that between 55 to 95 percent of women who have been abused by their partners have never told anybody, and men are even less likely to talk about it or get help.
Abuse is often called the silent epidemic because it’s the big, pink elephant in many marriages that nobody wants to talk about. People suffer in silence.
If anyone in the Bible understood abuse, it was King David. He was the king who wrote most of the book of Psalms and who also spent much of his life dealing with abuse, because there were people who wanted to hurt, kill, abuse, defame, and ridicule him — all kinds of abuse.
In more than 100 passages in the book of Psalms, David expresses his hurt, frustration, and anger at his enemies. He uses the word “enemies” nearly 100 times in the New International Version. He talks about the abuse that they heaped on his life.
But one of the things David modeled for us is this: Don’t hold it in. In Psalm 39:1-4, David explains what happened when he tried to keep his struggles a secret: “I said ... ‘I will not say anything while evil people are near.’ I kept quiet, not saying a word.... But my suffering only grew worse, and I was overcome with anxiety. The more I thought, the more troubled I became; I could not keep from asking: ‘Lord, how long will I live? When will I die? Tell me how soon my life will end’” (GNT).
This is a classic response to abuse. David was afraid to talk about it in the presence of his abusers, but his silence only made it worse: “I kept quiet, not saying a word .... But my suffering only grew worse, and I was overcome with anxiety.”
If you are experiencing this right now, I want you to know that God cares about you. I care about you. And there is hope. You don’t have to stay in that cycle of pain, anxiety, and fear.
But first you’ve got to stop being silent. You’ve got to speak up and tell someone you trust. You’ve got to bring it into the light so that God can begin to lead you to healing.
Talk It Over
This devotional is based on the current Daily Hope radio series at www.rickwarren.org.
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Domestic Violence: Wife Abuse Caught on Video
WARNING: This is a very graphic video. It is not for the faint of heart. You make become sick after watching this man abuse his wife in front of the children. This is just to show you that domestic violence and abuse happens in all strata of society. Domestic violence and abuse is not a respecter of anyone.
If you are in a situation like this, PLEASE get help.
Watch as this guy verbally & physically abuse his wife while his 13 year
old son records it all on video. Watch to the end to see what the
sentencing judge makes of it...with his sentencing.
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Domestic Violence and the Church
by Marcia Ford
DOMESTIC ABUSE OCCURS AMONG CHRISTIANS AND NON-CHRISTIANS AT NEARLY THE SAME RATE. HOW CAN WE MAKE THE CHURCH A PLACE OF REFUGE FOR BATTERED WOMEN?
Five years into her second abusive marriage, Maggie* and her new husband surrendered their lives to Jesus Christ. Their spiritual commitment gave Maggie hope that her tumultuous marriage could be saved. But when the physical abuse continued, Maggie sought help from their pastor. She told him about the terrors of living with a man who once had her pinned against a wall and choked her until she heard something snap in her neck.
Her evangelical pastor's counsel: Go home, pray and submit. "If your husband kills you," he concluded, "it will be for the glory of God."
Maggie survived both her husband's merciless torment and her pastor's chilling advice. But like many battered women, she found her place of refuge not in the church, but in the world--at a women's shelter in Texas. "Domestic violence is a major problem in America and in the church," says pastor and marriage counselor Jimmy Evans of Amarillo, Texas. "But the church has not treated it like a serious problem."
Overcoming Domestic Violence: Moving Out and Moving On
Sharon Zarozny of Brilliant Exits (http://www.brilliantexits.com/) shares her personal story of overcoming the trauma she experienced as a victim of Domestic Violence and abuse. Domestic Violence can happen to anyone, and Sharon was hard pressed to believe that this was happening to her.
Listen To The Audio: Overcoming Domestic Violence: Moving Out and Moving On
To learn more about Sharon’s story, read her article that appeared in The Huffington Post:
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