But if we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship with each other. Then the blood of Jesus, God's Son, cleanses us from every sin. If we say we have no sin, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in us. (1 John 1:7-8 NCV)
A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother, for adversity. Proverbs 17: 17
“The best mirror is an old friend.” - George Herbert
Acquaintances: I have quite a few of them. I do not really choose these people. They are people who happen to be in my world through any number of reasons, work, church, community events etc. I know the basics, what they do for work and the causes they support. I might have known them for two weeks or two years or more. I encourage them and enjoy their company. I don’t share my personal life with them, but enjoy doing life with them. Each acquaintance has the potential to be a friend.
Friends: I can count the number of them on one hand. They are people I trust and value. They are people I have known for a few years and some I have known almost all my life. They are people who have proved themselves in the past to put me first before themselves, and in return I have done the same. They are people I can be myself around, and know that if I make a mistake they will stick by me, and not be afraid to talk to me truthfully while they hold me up. They are people I would share my personal life with knowing they would not gossip about it. They are like family to me. Some are even better than some of my own family to me. They are people I would make every effort to forgive and reconcile with. They are people who will tell me the truth even if the truth hurts. They are people who are a good influence on me. These are my authentic friends and I trust that you have some of them too.
Authentic Friends Consistently Stick By You Authentic Friends are people who stick with you even if you make a mistake. They are people who stand up for you when people gossip or slander you behind your back. It’s not the criticism of enemies that is destructive; it is the silence of your friends. “A friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else.”
Authentic Friends Are ones who encourage each other
ou use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 You become like the people you spend your time with. Choose your friends wisely. Friends and acquaintances are either Constructive or Destructive.
Constructive: Build you up, encourage you, make you feel good about yourself.
Destructive: Knock you down, have a negative influence on you. Your self esteem drops when you are around these people. If your friends are Destructive your confidence will be low and your general feel on life might be negative. If they are Constructive you will naturally want to be around these people.
One thing for certain is that if your friends/acquaintances are Constructive or Destructive you will reflect what you see.
AUTHETIC FRIENDS HELP IN TIMES OF NEED
They are the ones in your life you know you can turn to in a time of need; they are the ones that will listen to you through your troubles. They are the ones who will help you when it doesn’t necessarily help them. In Christian fellowship people should experience authenticity. Authentic fellowship is not superficial, surface-level chit-chat. It’s genuine, heart-to-heart, sometimes gut-level, sharing.
It happens when people get honest about who they are and what is happening in their lives. They share their hurts, reveal their feelings, confess their failures, disclose their doubts, admit their fears, acknowledge their weaknesses, and ask for help and prayer.
Authenticity is the exact opposite of what you find in many churches. Instead of an atmosphere of honesty and humility, there is pretending, role-playing, politicking and superficial politeness, but shallow conversation.
People wear masks, keep their guards up, and act as if everything is rosy in their lives. These attitudes are the death of real friendship.
It’s only as we become open about our lives that we experience authentic fellowship. The Bible says, “If we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship with each other.… If we say we have no sin, we are fooling ourselves” (1 John 1:7–8, NCV).
The world thinks intimacy occurs in the dark, but God says it happens in the light. We tend to use darkness to hide our hurts, faults, fears, failures and flaws. But in the light, we bring them all out into the open and admit who we really are.
Of course, being authentic requires both courage and humility. It means facing our fear of exposure, rejection and being hurt again. Why would anyone take such a risk?
Because it’s the only way to grow spiritually and be emotionally healthy. The Bible says, “Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed” ( James 5:16a, Msg)
Thank God for what you have. Trust God for what you need.