It is believed that now that straight spouses are being educated, affirmed and supported, they will begin to seek support from their mental health professionals, medical professionals, and educators. The clergy will be expected to provide more positive, meaningful support that what has been offered so far.
Are you prepared to handle this straight spouse situation? I mean really prepared in a confident way to support our distressed sisters and avoid damaging them even further?
To our clergymen and women, are you prepared to discontinue the practice of encouraging your gay church members to marry our heterosexual sisters? Do you really believe that hiding from the sister that the man she is being encouraged to marry is gay, is OK with God or man? PLEASE do not use the bible to guilt our women who are already devastated, into remaining in a marriage filled with infidelity, dishonor, heartache, disrespect, abuse, and shame.
Professionals on the island can make sure they are ready by learning more about the phenomenon. First you cannot help a distressed straight spouse by doubling down on any old notions that embrace any type of homophobia. Our sisters will come to you already traumatized. They will need to be treated tenderly with compassion and understanding. If they cannot trust you, you won't be able to help them.
Reminding them constantly of the shortcomings of the men who they love will not reinforce their self esteem. We need professionals who will understand how to validate, affirm, confirm, encourage and support our sisters. They will need strong, valid support from professionals who will help them to restore their mental health and help them emerge stronger psychologically.
Use the resources of this website to get updated on straight spouse awareness. Email us with your questions, findings and concerns. We are all in this together. Let us continue conscientiously.