Have you ever reach for him early in the morning and he violently slaps your hand away from his private parts? Have you ever tried to rub your body close to his and he reacts like he got burned? Have you ever?
Have you ever noticed how he always has an excuse when he is trying to avoid having sex with you. A headache, backache, being too tired, you being too sexually aggressive, you wanting too much sex when you only get some maybe one every three or six months?
Have you ever noticed that he makes an effort to please you after every time you find some evidence and confront him about it? Have you ever wondered why he acts like you are on honeymoon after each time he thinks he is really busted, even if he calls you crazy?
Have you ever noticed how he uses your Christian beliefs to make you ignore his infidelity and or down low behavior? Have you ever noticed how he blames you for his inability to perform his duties in the bedroom? Have you ever noticed how he uses the bible to make you ignore the clues that he accidentally left behind?
Have you ever noticed that sometimes he smells like cologne that he does not have? Have you ever noticed that he sometimes come home late at night and want hurried sex without foreplay and he is very rough?
Have you ever noticed that when he has mechanical sex with you he scrubs himself in the bathroom before coming back to bed and turning his back to you all night? Have you noticed that since you gave him a baby he hardly ever wants sex anymore?
Have you ever confronted him about a down low behavior like him admiring another man when he thought no one was looking? Have you ever seen him receive a sexy text from a guy or an expensive gift from a male 'friend' and he wants you to believe it's no big deal and tries to explain it away saying someone is playing a joke?
You have a down low brotha. Plain and simple. He knows that you know because you have pointed to too many of the evidence but he thinks that you are accepting it because he is still with you, and you are not making plans to go anywhere. Open your eyes and your thinking. How much do you believe he respects you if he thinks you know he is down low but continues to accept his deceptive behavior?