Too many of you are hanging in there waiting for a confession. You are waiting for something that will be the deciding factor in your decision to leave. All you have to do is catch him, right? Then you’ll get him to confess. Well, let’s forget this one.
Some of them will never get caught, and many of them will never, ever confess. Some gay husbands are in deep denial. If they can’t even admit it to themselves, why do you think they’ll confess it to you? I also ask, if you have evidence, why do you require a confession? I know a confession will help you believe more that you were not crazy, but will a confession make you feel better about the situation? Will it help your peace of mind?
When you do catch them they come up with the world’s best stories on how the porn got on the computer, how the condoms got into their briefcases, how they contracted a sexually transmitted disease (which they usually claim to be your fault), or how your imagination is running away with you. If he confess to his gay orientation and behavior will you leave? Then he may confess and you do leave. Then he goes right ahead and gest another clueless woman, so everyone start believing you were the cause for the split or divorce. Will you go and tell every other woman he gets that he confessed his gay orientation to you?
If you would leave with a confession, that means you already know something. Why are you wasting more years waiting for a confession when you are just getting older. He is banking on you waiting until you are so old you believe no one else will want you. Even then, he may never admit to being gay and having gay sexual relations with other men. Then you will feel more cheated of the best years of your life.
It’s just not happening, so stop looking for a confession. If you are questioning your husband’s sexuality, YOU HAVE A GOOD REASON. I believe that you do. Whether it’s a hint, an instinct, or positive proof, go with it. Women don’t suspect their straight husbands of being gay. Trust me on that one. Too many other women have gone down this road before you.