You start beating yourself up over your stupidity in not recognizing
that your husband or boyfriend was gay. No, don't fo it. You are not stupid.
You start looking back and examining all of your moments in the relationship wondering how this could have happened. How is it that the person who was supposed to love you and cherish you forever was leading a life or thinking about leading a life that was totally foreign to you? Whoa, It happened to the best of us. You are not alone!
You trace and retrace your years together. You look for the clues or the signs that something was wrong, but you keep missing the clues. This is because you were deceived by someone who was most likely fooling himself. And when he stopped fooling himself, he kept deceiving you because he was scared. He was scared that if you knew the truth you wouldn't want him anymore. These guys can be great deceivers. And we of good hearts want to believe in the love we have for our men. Open your eyes and your thinking. You are not stupid, you just got duped.
Duped by your own inability to see what was in front of you, or duped by your unwillingness to use your intuition. You are beautiful, wonderfully and fearfully made. God did not make any stupid women. Remember that.