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Words may never adequatly describe how alone you as a straight spouse may feel upon learning that you husband or wife is on the 'down low' or decided to 'come out' now.  Hopefully other  stories will be posted for you to read also.   This will help you to understand that you are not alone, and show you some of the ways that others are using or have used, to transition through this difficult time.

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It’s 5 p.m. Do You Know Where Your Husband Is?
By Steve Volk 

As their wives carpool the kids to soccer, closeted suburban men troll the city’s bathhouses for anonymous — and oftentimes dangerous — gay sex. Ladies, what you don’t know might hurt you.

Read on for a really good look at what some closeted married husbands do.  There are wives who say, "I can swear that my husband is not cheating, he comes home and stays home every night." The question is, do you know what he did before he came home?

 
 
Down Low and Debatable!
by Peggy Butler

*Black  women talk candidly about men on 'the down-low'. Warning: If you freak out at  the mention of the word sex, reading this article could tarnish your moral  values.  On a blustery winter morning in December of 1999, Essex Garvey,  a stay-at-home mom of four, was sorting laundry, when a glaring
exhibition caught her eye. On the TV was a woman recently diagnosed with HIV. 

Noting the pained look on the woman's face, Garvey discovered that the culprit was the  woman's boyfriend, an admitted bisexual. Pointing wildly at the TV she sighed:  "That woman should have known her man was poking the log at both ends of  the totem pole. Now, that would never happen to me." 
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An Estimated Four Million Are Married To A Gay Spouse
 
Behind closed doors, tens of thousands of couples may be keeping a secret. After decades of marriage, they're learning that one spouse is straight. The other isn't. But today, some are finding comfort to learn they're not alone.
An Estimated Four Million Are Married To A Gay Spouse

 
 
  
In 1983, after 25 years of marriage, Amity Buxton’s husband, a decorated
World War II veteran now buried in Arlington National Cemetery, came
out of the closet. Realizing that there were no resources for
people like her, she formed the Straight Spouse Network.

Amity Buxton, LGBT Ally and Founder of Straight Spouse Network
Devote Campaign on Vimeo.

 
 
One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages
Interviews with Straight Spouses