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"They had a whirlwind romance and six years of marriage before a bombshell! How Stella Got Her Groove Back author Terry McMillan had to face her gay ex-husband." Do you remember that story? Now, how can a man not know that he has gay tendencies, and gay feelings. How can he not know that he is at least somewhat attracted to the same sex? Sadly, the same is true of women who are doing the same thing. They marry unsuspecting men, then years later after a bunch of kids, declare that they are in love with another woman. Worst yet, they carry on the homosexual acts with someone considered a close friend, or even a neighbor, while still married and living in the matrimonial home. Yea, your culture, your church, your family, friends or neighbors may be completely homophobic, but if you are bisexual or straight up gay, does that make you not feel stirrings for other men or women in your loins? People can handle the truth. The UPFRONT TRUTH. If you are honest |
with yourself and them. It's the lies that they cannot deal with. It is very devastating when a person invests half of his/ her life in a marriage, only to find out that her 'loving' husband/wife is not who they pretended to be for all those years. You may believe you had a 'Joe', when he is masquarading as a 'Jane ' or vice versa, mingling sexually with some other person of the same sex. The sad part is when they intentionally refuse to protect themselves, because they are in such denial about their own sexuality, and intentionally or unintentionally infect their spouse with a deadly disease. Listen up, if you are a 'bottom brotha', that's being homosexual. If you are a 'top', you are gay. It does not matter how much you enjoy sex with a woman, if you are spending time sexually with a man...you are gay. The same goes for you, if you are a woman involved sexually with another woman. That sexual behavior is gay. |
So, let's just be real and HONEST! There are no grey areas. Either you are, or you are not. Because you believe there is nothing wrong with it, or you want to live in perpetual denial, it is not ok to do it, and keep lying to your spouse. We know what the bible says about this, but we are not even going there now, because we do not need that to verify that what you are doing is definitely unfair, and dangerous, deceptive and unfaithful, on so many different levels.
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"No Spouse Left Behind: Straight Spouse Awareness" |
Men: Being macho masculine or being a thug, does not disqualify homosexuality. If you are laying it on a man or he is laying it on you, you are GAY, or if you really enjoy women too, that makes you BISEXUAL...meaning GAY. There are no 'STRAIGHT' men who enjoy sex with other men. So face it, and you will be so much less likely to engage in unsafe sex acts. It is not labeling. Everything has a name. Every job has a title, every motor vehicle has a maker or type. What makes you any different? Yes, you may love sex, and does not discriminate with whom you have sexual relations, but it does not matter how you look at it. Having sex with another man means you are gay.
It is very difficult for some men to acknowledge their sexual orientation as being gay, but because you have difficulty admitting it, does not make it anything otherwise. If men accept their gay sexual orientation, be honest about it, there will be less broken hearts, less women becoming infected with STD's, less women suffering from depression, and less women loosing their minds because their world has been shattered, with such a major deception, by someone whom they love, and who claims to love them.
From the point of view of many women, the deception is what hurts more than the fact that a man is gay. Honesty, most women can deal with, the truth, deception is what ruins them, and makes them become dysfunctional. You owe it to yourself, your children, if you have any, and your wife or significant other to come clean. Your deception more than anything else is putting you and them in danger of HIV and numerous other STD's. If you think about it, you like what you like, and you have no intention of changing. It is so stupid to not protect yourself. At least do it for the people who you claim to love and care for. Yes, the brothas that you mingle with and your family...yes, your wife or girlfriend. Does she deserve a death sentence because you have to get what you want, when you want it, from another man without using protection?
It is very difficult for some men to acknowledge their sexual orientation as being gay, but because you have difficulty admitting it, does not make it anything otherwise. If men accept their gay sexual orientation, be honest about it, there will be less broken hearts, less women becoming infected with STD's, less women suffering from depression, and less women loosing their minds because their world has been shattered, with such a major deception, by someone whom they love, and who claims to love them.
From the point of view of many women, the deception is what hurts more than the fact that a man is gay. Honesty, most women can deal with, the truth, deception is what ruins them, and makes them become dysfunctional. You owe it to yourself, your children, if you have any, and your wife or significant other to come clean. Your deception more than anything else is putting you and them in danger of HIV and numerous other STD's. If you think about it, you like what you like, and you have no intention of changing. It is so stupid to not protect yourself. At least do it for the people who you claim to love and care for. Yes, the brothas that you mingle with and your family...yes, your wife or girlfriend. Does she deserve a death sentence because you have to get what you want, when you want it, from another man without using protection?
It only takes a few seconds to wrap it up. Hey, can you just do that, if you have to continue the deception? It is not just your life, remember that. Chances are you have children. Do you want to kill their mother and yourself and make them orphans? Would you like your daughter to grow up and marry someone like you? Would you teach your son your lifestyle, in all honesty now? Would you really teach him to be a deceptive,
lying, cheating, danger loving, careless loving, down low brotha, ....to put himself in a position so he can get a potential death sentence with HIV?
Women: Your family deserves honesty. Be honest with yourself. You are exposing yourself and your family, especially your spouse to all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases.
We understand that you are going to do what you want, when you want, but PLEASE think about others. You are not being judged here. God is the ultimate judge. You are just being asked to do the humane thing, and protect your unsuspecting spouse or significant other. It is the right thing to do!
Women: Your family deserves honesty. Be honest with yourself. You are exposing yourself and your family, especially your spouse to all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases.
We understand that you are going to do what you want, when you want, but PLEASE think about others. You are not being judged here. God is the ultimate judge. You are just being asked to do the humane thing, and protect your unsuspecting spouse or significant other. It is the right thing to do!
'Straight' men who are not on the 'DL'
discuss how the 'DL' lifestyle of
other men affect them and how they date.
discuss how the 'DL' lifestyle of
other men affect them and how they date.
